Too many days are wasted comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be something we aren't. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses and it is only when you accept everything you are ~ and aren't ~ that you will truly succeed.
The habit of comparing ourselves to others can slip into our lives un-noticed, at any age and stage of our lives. For me it was when I was at school, a convent. The Nuns compared me to my sisters. "They were bright', 'well behaved', 'they concentrated', 'they were a good example' ... and then there was me! I was often told that I did not focus my energy in the right direction! I remember so many time that I was desperately trying to do the right thing and then 'words' would 'slap' me down and from my point of view they told me how un-important and worthless I was.
Today I say Thank you for those experiences - they really were a gift. They helped to 'shape' me and my passions in life. They taught me lessons of how I wanted to care, to be aware, to learn. Some of those lessons were painful and for a long time I did not know who and how I wanted to be in life. For a long time I was still trying to be who I thought others wanted and there was a hesitation at even acknowledging my own dreams.
To start with I found it easier to work from who I did not want to be. My motivation was strongest to move away from the life that I was just existing in. Slowly I discovered the confidence to acknowledge who I wanted to be and what I wanted to do anne the greatest gift was realising that all of my experiences from the past would help me to create my future.
Everything was based on the way that I chose to think - finding confidence starts with the courage to chose your thoughts :)
By sharing part of my journey - I truly hope that it will help to bring light to part of yours.
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